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Re: Homophobia

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Someguy wrote:I've had people wish me to get throat cancer
Say what, now? O_o
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Jake wrote:Someone wished AIDS on me the other day.
Nice anti-gay people :(
That's just fucking inexcusable in this day and age.
It's inexcusable in any day or age for whatever reason. Wishing harm on another (whether it occurs or not) is always wrong in my book. A brief clarification: consensual pain is not harm, it is merely acknowledging that your wiring is different. It can also be rather fun! :biggrin:

I have to admit to admit to being not so comfortable around the "raging queens" myself. Primarily because they strike me as being rather too desperate to be noticed. It may work for them but I find it somewhat off putting. I understand that it's what they're comfortable with but it makes me feel as uncomfortable as some women have in the past who've felt that an appropriate greeting is to put their hand on my groin - way too much. That's not to say that I'm anti bloke, I've just yet to find one that warms the heart of my cockles and isn't in a committed relationship :( Well, that and the fact that I'm more than a touch alpha where another male is concerned and I really don't want to be on top in that situation - I reckon I'll have more fun being on the bottom but they'll have to fight me for it! :D
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Re: Homophobia

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In a nutshell: You just hate those that act like total bitches. So do I.


There! Done! :mrgreen:
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Re: Homophobia

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Very interesting topic. I don't have anything against homosexuals, however have had a problem with those who don't accept the fact that I'm straight. I know its probably my pretty-boy face that's the main problem :p but when I've made this clear to these people in the past they couldn't help themselves but go for the grab :no:. Don't bother me at all if they make a pass at me etc. I just take that as a complement, but when it goes too far.... >:((

I could be wrong but I would believe it would be safe to assume most people of forums like these would not be against gays. Because, I've always believed I have my fetish to thank when it comes to understanding how different we all are, and how we cannot change that. Why should any individual condemn someone for something that they enjoy simply because they themselves don't like or approve of it. People are entitled to do whatever they please, so long as it doesn't bring any harm upon someone else, mental or physical (unless consensual of course).

No intent to offend here but I've always noticed how different lesbians are to homosexuals "In General" when it comes to their personality. It's sorta silly of me to stereotype cause I know it sounds hypocritical from what I have said above (we are all different), and I can only speak from my point of view based on the people I have come across in my life (very small target area). Getting to the point, I find homosexuals "In General" seem to be more at home with who they are, they seem happy and quite relaxed about it, and mostly have treated me with respect. Lesbians on the other hand, I find have in most cases treated me like shit, gone on complete rants over nothing, are extremely self conscious and seem to lack manners. It almost seems to me that because they are lesbians, they have to be aggressive and act like the "Alpha Male" to prove it. Once again I'm not saying that every lesbian is like this as I know I have at least met one who was very friendly towards me.

(People of different societies may very well be the contrary to what I said in the above paragraph cause I know well how our environments even those who are a mild distance apart play a part in how we behave) I only know what I've seen here in Aus. I know one thing for sure, I wish they'd hurry up and legalize gay marriage over here! These fools are only delaying the inevitable due to their out dated and religious beliefs.
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Re: Homophobia

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APC wrote:when I've made this clear to these people in the past they couldn't help themselves but go for the grab

I have a gay mate like that. It annoys me as much as it annoys straight people, and I sympathise with you completely there. Touchy-feely gays (at the wrong moments) : big turn-off :down: .
APC wrote:Lesbians on the other hand, I find have in most cases treated me like shit, gone on complete rants over nothing, are extremely self conscious and seem to lack manners.
How odd. No lesbians I know are anything of the sort (we British are far too polite, what-ho)!
APC wrote:I wish they'd hurry up and legalize gay marriage over here! These fools are only delaying the inevitable due to their out dated and religious beliefs.
Hear, hear. We're just about to have our first gay marriage in England; it's all very exciting.
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Re: Homophobia

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Jake wrote: How odd. No lesbians I know are anything of the sort (we British are far too polite, what-ho)!
I probably just had a few bad run-ins I guess. As for the British being polite...LOL :rofl: , pull the other one, it's got bells on! I have watched far too much British comedy to believe that! And my mum was born in England, so smart-arse tends to be in my blood.
Jake wrote: Hear, hear. We're just about to have our first gay marriage in England; it's all very exciting.
That's great to hear, it was legalized for about a week here, it was the ACT I think, then the senate overruled it nation wide. Hopefully we'll follow suit sooner rather than later :?
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Re: Homophobia

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You know, in hindsight, I'm actually very glad I started this topic. I think it really helped me figure out why I felt uncomfortable around gays or just the idea of homo-sexuality. A sort of therapy really.

I'm not still not totally comfortable with the idea of two men having sex, nor can I watch any gay porn, but that's a whole other story. Different strokes for different folks (no pun intended). But I think someone pointed out that it wasn't gays necessarily that made me uncomfortable, it's the gay stereotype.

You hit the nail on the head Jake when you mentioned that "Touchy-feely gays" are really annoying. Hell, it sometimes annoys me when some women are like this. But that doesn't mean all gay men are like this. In fact, in the past few years, I've come to call a lot of gay guys my friend, some I didn't even know were gay. Sure, some conform to the effeminate stereotype, but not all. Regardless of sexual orientation, my gay friends are good-hearted, hard-working and talented people who are enjoyable to hang out with.

And at this point in our history, I don't think we can afford any homophobia. It really angered me to see this bill being proposed in Kansas that would take away gay and lesbian rights, just as Jim Crow laws did for blacks in the early 20th century. There's no more room for intolerance. Gays and lesbians are people just as heterosexuals are, and they deserve to be as happy, or in the case of marriage, unhappy, as the rest of us!
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