Hello everyone. This is the first time I've ever had to come to terms with and I thought to introduce myself. Now how do I begin. .
I'm a 21 year old female who isn't sexually active and yet I always found myself being aroused by this kink. Naturally, I was embarrassed and thought it strange since it was very surreal to me. I've kept this secret with me for years until just two days ago I told a friend. He told me it was interesting, but to me, I thought it bizarre.
I'm not sure how to continue this any further as I lost my train of thought, but what exactly should I do as one who has come to terms with her kink?
I have no sexual attraction to any gender as I am asexual.
Would you consider this a fetish or a kink? I'd like to consider it as a kink, but both could work.
Forgive me if I sound foolish, I haven't really understood fetishes/kinks.
But anywho, it's a pleasure to make your acquaintance and I'm glad to see I'm not alone.
Greetings.
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Rommeltje
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Re: Greetings.
Hello! Welcome to the forum! I'm glad you've found us, and I hope you'll find some answers here. In fact, I'm sure you will. 
I don't think there's much that you should 'do' now that you've come to terms with it. Have a look around here, and see what it means to you. Which aspects of the fetish/kink appeal to you, and which don't. Other than that, I'd say just keep on living your life as you have. Whatever happens next will happen. There's nothing you need to do about it. It is very good that you've told your friend, though. That will help you think about it in more practical terms rather than whether it is weird or not. And, as you'll find out from this forum, it may be a little weird, but that's no reason to try and suppress it or anything. It may be rare to have this kink but, like you said, you're definitely not alone.
You say you have no attraction to any gender, but would you say your attraction to gloves resembles the kind of (physical) attraction you would've had to actual people?
And how would you define a fetish vs. a kink? I think of it as the former (obviously, or this forum would have a different name), but I'm not sure what the difference with a kink is exactly.
Either way, I hope you'll come to understand more about yourself here, and nice to meet you too!
I don't think there's much that you should 'do' now that you've come to terms with it. Have a look around here, and see what it means to you. Which aspects of the fetish/kink appeal to you, and which don't. Other than that, I'd say just keep on living your life as you have. Whatever happens next will happen. There's nothing you need to do about it. It is very good that you've told your friend, though. That will help you think about it in more practical terms rather than whether it is weird or not. And, as you'll find out from this forum, it may be a little weird, but that's no reason to try and suppress it or anything. It may be rare to have this kink but, like you said, you're definitely not alone.
You say you have no attraction to any gender, but would you say your attraction to gloves resembles the kind of (physical) attraction you would've had to actual people?
And how would you define a fetish vs. a kink? I think of it as the former (obviously, or this forum would have a different name
), but I'm not sure what the difference with a kink is exactly.Either way, I hope you'll come to understand more about yourself here, and nice to meet you too!
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Re: Greetings.
Hello, Rommeltje. Thank you for replying to my post so quickly.
I actually have considered that idea to be very plausible. I believe that to be true for myself as strange as it is.
Allow me to quote from a website that I chanced upon.
"Sexual fetishes are sexual responses to objects, or objectified body parts, that are not usually considered sexual in nature (an extreme attraction to a really hot girl, sadly, does not count)."
I understand that kink is being turned on by a specific object, but that is to the extent of my knowledge.
I actually have considered that idea to be very plausible. I believe that to be true for myself as strange as it is.
Allow me to quote from a website that I chanced upon.
"Sexual fetishes are sexual responses to objects, or objectified body parts, that are not usually considered sexual in nature (an extreme attraction to a really hot girl, sadly, does not count)."
I understand that kink is being turned on by a specific object, but that is to the extent of my knowledge.
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Yeah, I can really relate to that quote about fetishes. To me, "kink" sounds more like something you like to do, but that you could live without if you had to. A fetish goes deeper, and is something that you have less control over. It's not quite a sexual orientation, but it's pretty close. Maybe a secondary orientation on top of straight/gay/bisexual/asexual/what else have you.
It's always fascinated me, the question what a fetish is exactly (for obvious reasons
), Sometimes I wish I'd have chosen sexuology as my studies at university. Oh well. 
It's always fascinated me, the question what a fetish is exactly (for obvious reasons
), Sometimes I wish I'd have chosen sexuology as my studies at university. Oh well. -
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Re: Greetings.
Hi! Welcome to this forum! You have made a great introduction post, and I want to say a thing. There is, in the whole world, much confusion about the word "fetish"; for the common people, it's the bad, the abnormality, the thing you have to refuge from.
Some other thinks "foot" and other "handcuffs". Sexuality is much more complex than just using a single word. Sex is a world. In this community, we are attracted by gloves, in various degree: some like it on "sexual" enviroiment, some on every day settings. Some on women, some on men, some gloves alone. I prefer, for example, normal settings or anime
I found myself thinking as "wrong", "out of place", "I need to change". I wouldn't be the man I am now,if I loose something important as my gloves fetish. I tried to ho to specialist for this, but he said that it's better FEEL ourselves, that improving for the world!
So, go ahead! Be yourself and follow the advices of our admin
I hope you'll find your way
Welcome aboard!
Some other thinks "foot" and other "handcuffs". Sexuality is much more complex than just using a single word. Sex is a world. In this community, we are attracted by gloves, in various degree: some like it on "sexual" enviroiment, some on every day settings. Some on women, some on men, some gloves alone. I prefer, for example, normal settings or anime
I found myself thinking as "wrong", "out of place", "I need to change". I wouldn't be the man I am now,if I loose something important as my gloves fetish. I tried to ho to specialist for this, but he said that it's better FEEL ourselves, that improving for the world!
So, go ahead! Be yourself and follow the advices of our admin
I hope you'll find your way
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Re: Greetings.
Yeah, what they said ^
I think a kink / something kinky is more of an add-on that doesn't even have to involve sex, it just invites and entertains arousal. A fetish is uncontrollable attraction to things one would not consider "sexy". The act of wearing gloves for sex is considered kinky for somebody who doesn't have a glove fetish, but those who do have that fetish may approach the thought process from another angle, i.e. they would believe it imperative to wear them or would otherwise feel a billion times more satisfied. As Romm said, someone who just finds something kinky could live without that add-on.
Anywho, welcome aboard
I think a kink / something kinky is more of an add-on that doesn't even have to involve sex, it just invites and entertains arousal. A fetish is uncontrollable attraction to things one would not consider "sexy". The act of wearing gloves for sex is considered kinky for somebody who doesn't have a glove fetish, but those who do have that fetish may approach the thought process from another angle, i.e. they would believe it imperative to wear them or would otherwise feel a billion times more satisfied. As Romm said, someone who just finds something kinky could live without that add-on.
Anywho, welcome aboard
