"weird" behaviour of glove fetishists - or am I overreacting?

[sensualista]

that's awful, Carrie... I'm really sorry you had to experience something like this.

thanks everyone for your thoughtful replies, you helped me realise that my gut reaction was definitely on point and there's no need to question myself as to whether I was overreaction.

[Thesauce]

At the beginning of June I saw this glove fetishist girl who had a channel on YT. Everything was going fine...

Until she started showing her face and doing Q&As.
"I give her channel a week before she's forced to terminate it" I thought. And lo and behold, it doesn't exist anymore.

Why can't we have nice things...

[speedmstr]

No, you're not seeing ghosts, I have seen similar behavior before. There's also common characteristics with the type of people that are displaying it. Mostly (not always) it's those who haven't come to terms yet with their fetish, so didn't yet share it with their partner, and try to make their partner wear gloves under all sorts of pretexts, such as:"I want you to wear gloves, because they keep your hands soft", or even make attempts to make random people wear gloves, like restaurant waitresses for instance:"Sorry, but could you please wear gloves while taking my order, because of covid-19?!", that sort of bullshit.
Not entirely coincidentally it's also that cohort of glove fetishists that almost forces gloves upon ASMR content creators. To summarize: people that don't take no for an answer, often.

Great explanation. To add to your thoughtful and insightful post, I feel its also important to highlight that the insidious behaviour does not just exist within our community, but within a number of other fetish communities.

I'm not minimising the "fetish baiting," behavior within our community at all. In fact I cringe, whenever I head to the YouTube comment section and read forceful comments, from entitled guys who want ASMR creators to wear gloves. It saddens me know "they" walk among "us."

I genuinely believe most of these weird fetish guys who keep talking about gloves so much, literally do not understand the concepts of female nature, human nature, attraction, or relationships.

It is Probably a bunch of coomers, who watch ASMR and Porn constantly, because they spend their lives chasing pleasure (due to failures at life and with women).

Rather than putting in the work to become better people: capable of behaving in an attractive, confident and self disciplined manner. They continue to chase pleasure and creep women out. They seek an easy virtual escape, rather than working for a tangible reward.

If you lack self control, you by extension, lack a masculine core ... Learn to say no, become a better version of yourself that has a take it or leave attitude to pleasure. Change your life and get what you want out if it ... That's real satisfaction. Rather than the cheap pleasures, thrills and highs of compulsive masturbation.

All men can admit, chasing pleasure too often, is problematic.

As a matter if fact the ASMR community Has created an umbrella term, for obsessive compulsive fetishist's:

See the following video, if this topic happens to interest you:



PS: If I've said anything divide people or pissed anyone off. Or admin are not pleased with my behaviour. Then feel free to remove me. That is all.

[Rommeltje]

It is Probably a bunch of coomers

Ha! That's a new one to me.

Good post. It could do with a little less "these guys aren't REAL MEN! ®", imo, but I agree with everything else.

Also good that there's now a term for it: Fetish Mining. I like that.

[SexySurgical]

No very good, kudoos for saying what needs being said.

PS: If I've said anything divide people or pissed anyone off. Or admin are not pleased with my behaviour. Then feel free to remove me. That is all.

[Carrie Karkus]

At the beginning of June I saw this glove fetishist girl who had a channel on YT. Everything was going fine...

Until she started showing her face and doing Q&As.
"I give her channel a week before she's forced to terminate it" I thought. And lo and behold, it doesn't exist anymore.

Why can't we have nice things...

I'll be real--the subhuman puddles of anal scuzz that do this are the very reason I'm re-evaluating what I'm doing with my own YouTube channel.

[Jimglove]

What I can't quite get my head around is that people seem to think that Youtube and similar platforms are appropriate places to be effectively requesting sexual content, and that it is ok to harass these poor women. It's the result of an overly sexualised society, in my opinion, and also one where there seem to be no boundaries to what people are prepared to say within the apparent anonymity of the internet.

Surely if you're looking for sexual content, you would approach a content creator (for want of a better word) you would go to a porn channel?

[devdas5z1]

What I can't quite get my head around is that people seem to think that Youtube and similar platforms are appropriate places to be effectively requesting sexual content, and that it is ok to harass these poor women. It's the result of an overly sexualised society, in my opinion, and also one where there seem to be no boundaries to what people are prepared to say within the apparent anonymity of the internet.

Surely if you're looking for sexual content, you would approach a content creator (for want of a better word) you would go to a porn channel?

I agree with you in principle. However, Youtube and social media have the advantage of being free and easily accessible, and they lack the stigma porn sites have. From a social stigma standpoint (that is, setting aside for a moment the fact that Youtube content creators are people who deserve to be treated respectfully), it's understandable why one might try to utilize Youtube for gratification- the content is free, it's often well made, and there's little chance that there will be an awkward conversation, should a spouse or family member see Youtube in a person's browsing history. Porn usually means paying content creators (at least in theory), which is economically reasonable. But the internet has a long history of people trying their best to avoid paying for content.

None of this is meant to excuse the awful behavior described here. Just to acknowledge the factors that help create it- there's more going on than over-sexualization.